If you have a serious disagreement or misunderstanding with your worker:

• Tell them, if you feel like you can.
• Tell your worker’s supervisor.
• Write to your worker and their supervisor with the facts as you see them. In your letter:
  • Ask them to add your letter to your file.
  • Stick to the facts.
  • Do not make threats or accusations.
• Communicate in writing as much as you can. Write down notes of any conversations.
• If you do have a meeting with your worker, you may want to have an advocate come with you. This advocate could be a 
  • parent partner,
  • peer support,
  • therapist,
  • domestic violence advocate, or
  • anyone who supports you.

Often the way to get your DCF case closed without risking removal of your child is to remain as polite and calm as possible. If the worker asks something that feels inappropriate, you can politely decline to answer. If it is a question that is not relevant to the case, you can tell your worker that. Or, you can say that you will answer it in an email later.

If that feels impossible, here are some other things you might try:

1. Keep a log of the inappropriate things that the worker has said and  why it was offensive or harmful. 
2. Ask someone you are comfortable with to be present during your meetings, including home visits, so someone else sees what is going on.
3. Contact the DCF worker’s supervisor and report the behavior in writing. Email is fine. Please know that supervisors often side with the DCF worker. 
4. If the behavior is truly intolerable or feels unsafe, you can contact the DCF worker’s supervisor to request a new worker be assigned to your case. Note: This option may result in your case staying open longer. You may not get a new worker even if you ask.
    

If you have tried everything you can to work things out with the worker and supervisor, you may want to file a grievance or contact the DCF Ombudsman. See What can I do if I disagree with a DCF decision.